The First Tee of Fort Worth

Which of The First Tee Nine Core Values has helped you the most on your personal journey to become a better student, citizen, golfer or better prepared for life?

Contrary to popular belief, confidence is not thinking too highly of yourself, but rather, it is being comfortable with who you are, and accepting yourself, faults and all. Through the seven years I have been involved with The First Tee, I have seen the core value of confidence change who I am as a person. Because of my embrace of this word, I have been able to publicly speak at City Council meetings, leadership conferences, and award ceremonies. As well as converse with mayors, police officers, professional golfers, golf coaches, professors, and connect with peers, I have been able to practice networking with ease. Many times in my life, I have seen my friends or acquaintances shy away from even asking a store employee for assistance. If you are intimidated by even asking a cashier for a receipt, it will be difficult to apply confidence in situations that truly matter to your future. Sometimes, when it seems that you can’t conquer a situation, maybe all you need to do is rethink what confidence really means. By taking the focus off of stereotypes and opinions, you will then be enabled to embrace yourself at a whole new level, thus creating confidence.

Which core value have you employed to help someone else achieve their goals?

When I first joined The First Tee, I was clueless about the word integrity. After learning the definition, integrity is essential in everything I do. For example, a fellow member of my leadership organization and I have both been striving toward the highest honor in the organization, the Stars and Stripes Award. In the process, I overlooked a step in the guidelines. I had raised funds for my project, and, according to the guidelines, the funds could not be accepted at that moment. Easily, I could have overlooked that and held the funds until I was ready or used the funds for personal wishes. Of course, this would not have shown integrity to the donor who intended the money for Stars and Stripes. Instead of succumbing to these choices, I chose to present my collected funds to the fellow member, as she had reached the appropriate stage to receive funds. By doing this small action, I not only showed integrity to the guidelines and the donor, but I also made a substantial impact on her project and her confidence. It also reinforced in me how important it is to have integrity, even in the little things.

Identify a lesson that you have learned from a mentor, peer or role model that you have translated into your daily life.

No matter the situation, school, leadership, or at home, I have been the kind of girl who is eager to answer the question first. Unfortunately, that part of my personality would tend to appear as overbearing. A lesson I have been taught by both mentors and peers is knowing how and when to pause before speaking. Although this may seem like a very unimportant skill, it is one of the most important tools in my toolbox. When involved in team settings, sometimes I struggle with knowing when to pause and let others speak up. Mentors in my life have not only helped me understand the importance of timing my words, but also to understand the effects it has on other people. Illustrating to me with both their actions and words, mentors and peers have shown me how to implement and apply this most needed skill. Vitality of this lesson is evident in both team settings and in my home life. Thanks to the learning process and the patience of others who teach me, I am now more capable of identifying when I can become overeager and knowing when I need to pause before speaking.